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Cuming Next…

fleurdelissf — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 18:41:19 +0000

These next two weeks are filled with interviews again. I am going back to my roots, folks. If you are trying to keep up with all of my articles, they can always be found on the articles tab of my website,or you can simply visit my archives on the Huffington Post. A piece awaits you on Simone Jude and her new film “Public Sex, Private Lives.” It is an extremely personal look in to the lives of Isis, Lorelei Lee, and Princess Donna. I am so very excited about this entire project that Simone embarked upon. She is a talented film maker and she will help make my sexy circus immortal in September. In keeping with my San Francisco roots and themes next up is Broke-Ass Stuart. I heard him read a poem about San Francisco at Writers With Drinks earlier this month. In that poem he captured the beauty, intelligence, quirky, sexy funniness that makes this city great. I decided that I wanted to know more about this young man who caters to the young broke and beautiful. Lastly I will be talking to Miss Courtney Trouble. She won big at Cinekink in New York earlier this month. We will be discussing queer porn, feminism, pornography, and body image. Stay with me folks. We have only just begun.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words

fleurdelissf — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 16:45:34 +0000

I spent Saturday night on The Upper Floor. I would write it up but with these pics, I simply don’t have to. What do you think folks? I am busy this week writing, so I hope this entertains you all until then. These are the only pictures in existence of me like this. I never until Saturday night, ever allowed anyone to take video or photos of me while I was being fucked. The man who took these is a friend of mine and I thought what the hell. Only photos were taken and no video exists of this.

The man in the photos with me is none other than the man, the myth, the legend, Mark Davis. I think it’s funny my first sexy pictures are with Mr. Davis. When I saw these I loved them and I wanted to share them with all of you.

I had not been to an Upper Floor party since October of last year. I missed them. These parties are epic and I got my adult scream therapy in. Go to The Upper Floor to see this and many other evenings of debauchery. Stay with me folks.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Happy Birthday Baby!

fleurdelissf — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 07:02:37 +0000

This has been a very busy week for me. I need to bask in the glory of writing my book from the rush of all of my writing last week. When I imagine that my book needs to be done with by June… ugh, deep breath.

It is odd to write from the past when I am used to writing about the present. This week gained speed quickly as I typed away in the afternoons. I am also interviewing some new and interesting sexy folks for you to read about. We will be discussing cinekink, queer porn, and much more.

Thursday I will be attending Public Disgrace, but it does feature a twist. My assistant, who is very dear to me, turned 21 yesterday. How cute is that to be born on Valentine’s day? She has worked for me and not been able to attend any of the sexy things she hears so much about. What better way to ring in your birthday than with a bunch of perverts at the sex castle? We shall see what she thinks of the gang bang and the hospitality. I do love me a first timer.

Friday brings female sexual wrestling, or Ultimate Surrender as it is called. I never got into sporting events, ever, but I have to say I get into these wrestling matches. They are fun and raunchy. Also, I am a big fan of yelling, so in this way it also works out well for me. It is a very fun event mixed with some of my favorite folks. I get to yell, “SIT ON HER FACE!” and “FORCED KISSES!” Popcorn is also served, and I really like that.

Have no fear, I will be back soon with a variety of topics. My life moves quickly, so when I get a small break I take advantage of it. I hope you all made it through VD Day all right. Now we get ready for Saint Patrick’s Day, a real holiday. A holiday that starts with a drink from the moment you wake up! It’s like vacation, because it is usually on a week day. Stay with me folks.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Cum One, Cum All….

fleurdelissf — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 22:05:23 +0000

Lately, I find myself as busy as a one-armed paperhanger. Beyond writing my own blog, I write for the Huffington Post and SF Weekly. On top of that, I write for Whore! Magazine, and I am writing my book. The one thing I have come to discover during this period of not having free time is that I really like what I do. I love being able to educate the masses on all things sex-positive and sexually relevant.

A lot of events are happening this month, and I thought I would take a moment to share with the group. February is a strange month; Valentine’s Day brings out the weird in people. Valentine’s Day, or VD day as I like to call it, is a very expensive fake holiday. Love is in the air, along with flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and the feeling of worthlessness if you do not have someone to buy you these things.

It’s at times like these that I realize perhaps it was a blessing I grew up without holidays. So, due to all the love in the air, events are abundant in this month of romance. I thought I would give you some options for next week if you do enjoy celebrating this holiday. Starting tonight, “Writers With Drinks” is hosting their monthly event at the Makeout Room. Yours truly will be telling my “Orgy As a First Date” story. Some people go to dinner. I go to group sex events on a first date. Doors open at 6:30 PM the show is from 7:30 – 9:30 PM.

On Valentine’s Day itself, Whore will be hosting a sex panel at Casanova Lounge. Sex performers, sex-educators, and attractive ones at that, will be discussing all things sex related. It will be a very good time. If you feel like dancing, try the party at Supperclub on the 14th. It’s a Valentine’s Day 70s party at Supperclub SF with a great DJ playing disco, 70s soul, house, electro, and featuring a live Sax player. There is also the Hubba Hubba Review on Monday, February 13th at the DNA Lounge. The Hubba Hubba Review is an evening of Burlesque done with many exotic players. It’s $5 and fabulous.

All in all, this month should be a good one for events, but don’t get bogged down with the romantics. A holiday should not define the romance in your life. I have found my most romantic moments were ones that happened organically and without fear of punishment. That is my two cents on this matter. If you are looking for my articles that I write for other entities, you can find them all on my website. Click the “Articles” tab at the top of the page, and you will find all the other stuff I think is relevant to sex and sexuality. Thanks for supporting me in all of my sexy adventures, and come on out to the Makeout Room tonight and watch me tell my tale. I forget that for many years I simply told my stories out loud to friends, mainly at dinner parties. I am going back to my roots, folks. I hope to see and meet you all there.

Stay with me, folks. This year is already interesting.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Sexy Sex Education…

fleurdelissf — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 03:50:10 +0000

Think back to Sex Ed when you were younger. For me, in 6^th grade they separated the boys from the girls. This is when little girls find out what menstruation is and how to use a tampon. They had an array of feminine products for us to peruse. In high school, they educated us on STDs and how to not get knocked up.

I remember hearing people giggling and zoning out. I was never comfortable during these classes. My parents never discussed sex with me, other than to tell me not to do it. Being a Jehovah’s Witness made access to sex education that much harder. Their idea of sex education was get married. That way, when you get knocked up God will still love you. Now that I am older and I educate others about sex, it is nice to know that people have more options in terms of sex information than I did.

It is the age of the internet, and you can find out all sorts of things. Have you ever wanted to take a sex class as an adult, but been too embarrassed to attend one in person? Well, now you can. Kink Academy and Passionate U are two sites where you can get a complete and comprehensive sex education. Kink Academy has a plethora of sexy things to educate you folks on. Reid Mihalko is one of the folks featured on Kink Academy and Passionate U as a sex-geek extraordinaire. I volunteered to be a model for some of this footage. We were educating the masses on kissing, threesome positions, and full body kissing. You can find just about every type of class that you can think of. Sometimes in the privacy of our own computers we can really explore the things that we desire. Stay with me folks, February is just beginning.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Shame On You!

fleurdelissf — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:57:25 +0000

One of my major platforms is sex-positivity. Being sex-positive means taking care of yourself in terms of sex. So many of us have baggage and shame when it comes to sex. For some, it’s due to religion or family. For others, it’s due to a sexual violation that happened to them. Sexual shame and repression is much more serious than people think. How we view sex and have sex says a lot about who we are. I myself have had sexual experiences that were far from consensual. It took me many years to work all of that out. Once something happens sexually that is violating in some way, it is very hard to participate in sex in a healthy way.

For some, they shut that off, but for the majority our dysfunction rears its head when we make sexual decisions. I wanted to take the control back after it had been taken from me years ago. I had a lot of casual sex and sport fucking because I could control it. It was a hunting exercise, but it was not healthy. Most times I ended up regretting it and wondering why I did it. When I finally decided to talk to someone was when I really began my process of healing. You have to be ready to deal with whatever occurred in order to move on without doing more psychological damage. Shame and sex are too often intermingled, and that is something I want to try to stop.

Being very sexual, slutty, experimental, or kinky can be a tough thing to come to terms with. How do you experience everything you want sexually without feeling disgusting after? First, you have to be ready for whatever you are doing, and you have to make wise decisions in terms of partners. I was at a sex party the other day. It was the birthday of a good friend of mine. How many people can host an orgy for their birthday and not have it feel sordid? Sex geeks can, that’s who. When you start interacting with people in this community, you find that sex isn’t the most important thing at these parties. Connection is. There was one woman who attended this party who is from the South, and she had been trying to create a community similar to ours where she lives.

She had experienced her own trauma, but she was being very brave and taking her life back, and she was doing it in a very safe environment. Before the party begins, we discuss boundaries, respect, and privacy. These rules are not negotiable, and if you break them you will not be asked back. Part of why these parties work is due to the safety that is created within them. I do not like my neck being touched or choked during sex. I stated this during our boundary talk. Guess what happened? My boundaries were respected, and I had a wonderful time. I was in a more introspective mood at this party. I was having fun watching the sea of naked folks intertwined in a lovely space. The laughter, the moaning, and the movement was all before your eyes. From a sex swing, to strap-ons, and to wrestling, everyone found what they were looking for one way or another. When I looked at the birthday boy and offered myself on a platter, that decision felt good. Because having sex with this man does not make me feel demeaned or used. It makes me happy because we are friends, and we love and respect one another.

I found myself watching this southern woman very closely, just to make sure she is okay. The more you play in this land, the more you take the newbies under your wing a bit. Playing in this arena can be scary and can bring up feelings you are not sure how to handle. I wanted to make sure that she was okay with everything that was happening. She was having a delightful time, and this was a woman who was so shy in the beginning that she did dishes to calm down. She went from that to walking around in a matching bra and panties while having sexual encounters that excited her. She loved the energy and the safety. These are the things that I love about my job. This was an experience she will think about and smile instead of shudder and shower.

I spent many years working these issues out alone, and it is hard. Part of why I write and I share as much as I do is because so many people are figuring this out alone. No one is ever really alone, and if you look you can find an outlet. I realize not everywhere is San Francisco, but you can find help. There was more than one person who had traveled a great distance for this experience. Sex when done in a positive way leaves you feeling sated, refreshed, and alive. Make sure that you are doing what you want sexually, getting what you want sexually, and not losing yourself in the process. You can always say no, and it should always be respected. If you have found yourself a victim of a sex crime, please contact the authorities, a hospital, or a sex-crisis center. You can find a sex life again and a wonderful one at that. Love and respect yourself. That way you pave the way for others to do the same. Stay with me folks.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Sex Without Regret…

fleurdelissf — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:51:21 +0000

The main reason I don’t write about my sex life anymore is because I enjoy having my personal stories back. At the same time, I share when I think that doing so will enlighten the masses. Having said that, I will be disclosing a bit of my sexy time in Las Vegas, mainly because it sparked an interesting conversation with my travel partner.To me, the wonderful thing about fucking is that each person you have sex with is unique. Someone recently asked me how I liked to get fucked, and I said that it depends on the day. Each person I have sex with fulfills a different aspect of me. The decision is made based on how I feel at that moment in time.Vegas brought out the sexually experimental in me. Fuck, from the second I walked into my hotel room that was filled with three naked people, one leaving and me entering. My dress was off within moments because of how comfortable I was with my bunk mates. That is the great thing about my sex life now – all the sex I have is because I want to. My choices are no longer derived from issues that I have not dealt with.I don’t have regret or shame as I once used to feel. Within an hour of landing I had already done deliciously dirty things, and the weekend had only just begun. By the end of it I had participated in an amazing foursome, oral sex that made me see lights, and a strap on story that makes me a little proud of myself. Here we go! I am making an exception folks, and I am going to give you another view into my bedroom. Don’t get used to it, because it will not be a habit. But, there are certain stories that much like sluts are for the world. I have been around the block a few times, and as you all know I have tried a ton of things. So when you get fucked so right that you see light and color, it’s time to talk about it.I had the great privilege of meeting International Miss Leather 2011, Sara Vibes. She is an amazing sex-positive educator and leather lassie. I met her at a panel discussion, and by luck of the draw her and her naughty nurse costume made an appearance in my hotel room. She was invited by this lovely blonde creature who I just had amazing oral sex with. There is nothing quite like sex with a woman; the softness, the smoothness, and the view in between their legs as you lick their pussy up and down.We were taking a break from fucking, and that is when Sara cruised in. She is a 23-year-old bad ass, who won International Miss Leather because she fucking brought it. Let’s hear it for the East Coast, because this young lady is from New York. She is funny, sexy, and smart. We drank, we talked, and then all of a sudden Sara started to talk about her cocks – the strap ons that she uses to make her partner and others cum.It had been a while since I let someone fuck me with a strap on. So while the other two people in the room were sexing it up, Miss Vibes and I got better acquainted. It started with a good old-fashioned flogging. I miss being flogged. It’s the way the air feels before the leather hits my skin. Goddamn, I get hot just thinking about it. She had two lovely matching floggers, and she skillfully gave me a bit of a spanking.What can I say? I have been a very bad girl. So once we finished that, I wanted to see what else she could do. We picked out a strap on that I was comfortable with. Then folks, I am still not quite sure what she did because it all went to color. OMFG, this girl knows how to fuck. I mean it was intense, pleasurable, and wild. She knew how to pull my hair, slap my ass, and fuck me so hard I lost the ability to speak for a bit. She actually fucked me silent, and that is saying something. The last time I had that feeling was when Lady Ripplee got me off in her living room. I went to a place that wasn’t even human. I think I even meowed. Yet, my favorite part was when she went down on me and said, “You have a pretty cunt.”It’s funny. My pussy gets a ton of compliments. I have heard I taste good and that my pussy has some power, but when it comes from a woman, the compliment is just so much bigger. It was one of the most amazing sexual experiences of my life, and I had to brag a bit. I went to the porn awards and got fucked by Miss International Leather. God, I fucking love my life. Stay with me folks.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

To Sex Work Or Not To Sex Work…..

fleurdelissf — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 01:28:12 +0000

Las Vegas sprang from nothing in the desert into one of the biggest attractions in the world. Vegas was bank rolled with mafia money and continues to have questionable values. It is a city I can only spend about three days in. I just don’t think it is a good idea to be able to get whatever you want at any time of day. Sex is a huge theme in Las Vegas, so it only seems fitting that Las Vegas would also become the home of the Adult Video News Awards, or more commonly known as “the Porn Awards.”I found myself on a plane heading into the desert to mingle with porn stars and find out what this week is all about. I stayed at the Hard Rock where all the AVN festivities were taking place; the expo and countless parties public and private. I also decided a companion might be nice on this trip, especially one who has never been to anything like this. I phoned a friend and invited someone who I thought would be an interesting addition to this trip. I always love seeing the reaction from newbies when I take them to outings. I forget at times that this life I lead makes people’s eyes pop open. The evening prior to my departure, I found myself auctioning off humans at the Red Devil Lounge, so not much seems strange to me anymore.I started this post on the plane and now these last few paragraphs seem incomplete. The Porn Awards are so much different than people think. Honestly, before I became sex-positive, even I had misconceived notions of what a porn star/sex worker is. Years ago, society sold me on the fact that hookers, strippers, and porn stars were all damaged, and that is simply not the case. Being a sex worker doesn’t mean you are damaged. It is simply a career choice you make. What is the difference from being a hooker or a waitress? Its customer service and being polite to folks who don’t necessarily deserve that. Sex is a funny thing that people have such huge opinions on. I am a sex writer. I blogged about everything I did sexually for a year. I do not differentiate that from being a porn star or escort. Why? Because there is no difference. This trip was complete with many new observations. My next few blogs are going to be about the mighty pornography industry. From an amazing panel with Nina Hartley, to why transgender safe sex is different from our own. I will also talk about how people of color are still under represented in mainstream pornography. Sex toy reviews will be happening along with a bit of bragging. I made a choice not to write about my sex life anymore, but this trip was an exception. I am a little proud of myself!Folks, I am a sex positive writer who is here to tell you even I had it wrong. Porn stars are not the people who society makes them out to be. They are educated and liberated folks who choose to live their lives out loud and in color. There is something to be said for that, and now that I live my life that way, I understand why. Stay tuned.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Viva Las Vegas

fleurdelissf — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 05:05:24 +0000

I had told myself that I was going to take January off to write my book. Writing is an interesting job, and it’s more work than people think. This month has been a great one for my book, and I get more and more pages typed everyday. But like all great plans, my intention not to travel was thwarted. January has been a great month for me. You will now see my writing on The Huffington Post, as they have given me a blog. You can look forward to hearing about my travels as well as all sorts of things. When I began to see this hobby of mine was turning into a career, I used to say that I wanted to be in every living room in America and translated into many different languages. Be careful what you say out loud! My blog with The Huffington Post will put me in every living room in America, and my stats tell me that I am translated in many different languages. Who would have thought so many people would be interested in what I have to say?

So, now I have to take it up a notch. My topics will range, but I will always stay true to my sex-positive roots. The world is changing, and I am thankful to be a small part of it. Now, onto my lusty travels! I went on a brief holiday wine tasting in Sonoma with some of my dear friends. It was relaxing and just the quiet escape that I needed. I need to take a break from being Fleur De Lis SF at times. Laughter, wine, and gorgeous scenery definitely did that. As most of you know, the AVN Award Show is this weekend in Vegas (more commonly referred to as the “porn awards”.) I decided that it would be a good endeavor for me to pack a bag and fly out to the desert. It just so happened Reid Mihalko, sex educator extraordinaire, will be in attendance of this decadent event. He will be teaching classes and doing his sex-positive work. Our nights will be filled with extreme parties and outrageous conduct. What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas… Unless of course you are with me. I am sleeping for the next few days because I plan to play this weekend. God, I love Las Vegas. It encourages you to be as naughty as possible. I will be attending some sexy parties, the AVN awards, and perhaps pop into the Power Exchange to see how they dungeon in the desert. Wish me luck, and stay tuned. I can tell this one is going to be good. Stay with me folks.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF

Welcome To San Francisco :)

fleurdelissf — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 03:27:59 +0000

Well, the new year has begun at a running pace. I rang in New Years quietly and without too much of a ruckus. I decided that 2012 needed to reflect a bit more peacefulness in my life. The slutty blogger has had an awful lot of excitement since this whole crazy ride began, so I really wanted this year to bring me a good amount of peace and quiet, while at the same time still mixing with it revelry that makes me feel alive.

On the first I took myself to Burke Williams and rang in the New Year with some bliss for my body. I am opting to take better care of myself this year and relaxing every chance I get. Then I did a photo shoot with Julia O. Test for my site and my book cover. It’s nice to roll around on a bed with a man who is as close to perfect as they get and have it be called “work”. In 2012 I have traveling to do, books to review, sex toys to investigate, and of course all the sexy parties! This last weekend was filled with a flurry of excitement. My site launched, and all of you can find everything you need to know about me on it. I have an advice column that I hope all of you use, and some other very cool things to come. This is a year that I really want to interact with my readers, so please stay in touch with me.

Part of my weekend was spent at a barbecue with close friends. They had a friend visiting from Europe, and he was not familiar with our Mahala decadence. I watched him as we all drank mimosas and spoke of outrageous stories that are simply a part of our everyday life – from a woman’s experience taking Viagra and watching her pussy get swollen to the re-cap of how many of us have had sex together. It may have also been the fact that grown people were trying to figure out a way to justify having a moon bounce in the front yard. Why would the neighbors notice naked people greased up bouncing up and down? Doesn’t every neighborhood have this? God, I love my friends!

He was a good sport, but I forget at times just how much of the world is not exposed to what I am exposed to. I am curious about what awaits our foreigner on his three-week tour of San Francisco. God speed to him. I forget that what is completely normal to me is shocking to most of the world. I also forget that part of the shock is our candid way of talking about sex. There is no shame in this group. We do not hide our escapades, we share with the group. I was trying to piece together a knee injury that I had somehow gotten after a particularly violent evening of sex. I am still finding bruises and wondering what on earth I was doing. Most people have to keep these things to themselves, we discuss them over brunch.

I LOVE YOU SAN FRANCISCO. Stay with me folks. I will be at the Red Devil Lounge on January 19, 2012, performing live with Whore! magazine. Come check me out.

Muah,

Fleur De Lis SF